Not too many people know this, but I went through a phase in my early twenties where I really enjoyed going to psychics. I had this insatiable hunger to find out my future. I wanted someone to tell me that everything was going to be okay and I wanted to believe them. Long story short I don’t do that anymore because I’ve learned to focus more on the present moment. There are some valuable life lessons that took me longer to learn because of my fixation with figuring out the future.
If I could go back in time, there are quite a few things that I wish my younger self knew. I would save her from unnecessary worrying, avoidable mistakes, and teach her to live life on her terms. Here are the 3 life lessons that I would love to deliver to my younger self…
You don’t need anyone’s permission to be who you are
I was such a people-pleaser when I was younger. I was always looking for validation outside of myself. If I could go back in time, I would tell my younger self that it was more than okay for her to be herself. I would find a way to teach her to stand firm in her decisions and that anyone who didn’t like who she was didn’t need to be in her life.
Getting Bullied In School Isn’t Going To Define Your Life
I was horribly bullied in middle school and high school and I never told anyone because I was so ashamed about not being able to defend myself. Back in those days, I believed that my life was ruined and that things would never get better. I wish I could give my younger self a huge hug and let her know that things would get better. In the end, I’m a stronger, more compassionate, and a more resilient person because of everything I endured. I learned to be extremely careful with other people’s feelings and emotions as a result of how reckless other people were with mine.
It Is Perfectly Okay To Live Outside The Box
It is up to each and every single one of us to define how we want to live our lives. Sometimes the life we choose to live won’t fit into anyone’s box…nothing is wrong with that. Not everyone wants to house with the white picket fence, some of us want to travel the world. Some of us may choose a career path that others may not understand. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you are proud of the decisions you make.
I ended up learning those valuable life lessons at some point in time. It would have been amazing to learn them a lot sooner. I don’t have a time machine to travel back in time with, but I can at least share those lessons with other people who may need to hear them. What are some life lessons that you wish you could share with your younger self? Feel free to share below…